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There Is An Opportunity In Every Difficulty

It is never easy to believe that there is an opportunity in every difficulty. We all love to stay away from problems and lead a comfortable existence without hassles. These hard times can bring out the worst and best in us. Yet, such fear at our door may be a great motivation to create a stronger life. Have you ever thought about changing the way you view things? How can you react differently to such situations? Do you become emotional during difficult circumstances? What can you do? Whether it is in business or life, it is always easier to say "I can't" when difficulty arises. But it is the constraints, your emotions and a lack of ideas that keeps you stuck on a problem. When you can shift your mindset from a "can't" to "can," then you might see a problem as a possible opportunity. So, it is a mindset that you can craft. "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity" - Albert Einstein The Seed of Opportunity Therefore, y...

BigIdeas2018 - Being Yourself Is the Greatest Present

#BigIdeas2018  - A viral term going on all social networks and all pioneers, laymen are documenting their words. And, let me take this term now, those who expect serious takeaways, please quit here. This is for those beautiful ladies who are trying to balance work and home in smaller cities. (passionate or responsibility doesn't matter and honestly, it is for responsibility most of the times and smaller cities? Yes, I mean it) Being a balancer of home and office and especially in a smaller town, I have been a fence-sitter in most cases a lot of times. Does this sounds as a serious tone? No I am not, as most of them are simple things but I would like to address them. #MyBigIdeas2018 on smaller things that can create Tons of good Vibes about BEING YOURSELF Say Yes to Messy Home - Surrounded by relatives, visits are quite often. Don't push yourself to clean everything in a single time just for their lunch or dinner visit. Let them understand you work 6 days a week and e...

Better Quality of Life: How Having a Positive Attitude Can Help You Achieve It

Usually, the term "quality of life" is used for people who are hurdling towards the finish line of this race we call life. So why am I using it now? Well, ask yourself how much time you have left. You can probably estimate how many years until you reach old age, but, in reality, there is no guarantee you will actually reach it. Next, I want you to think back to your earliest memory. How long ago was that? I'm not asking for the number of years, I'm asking how far back does it feel? Has your life up until now passed in the blink of an eye or does it feel like an eternity? My point is, no-one knows how much time they have left, so the term "quality of life" should be used for us all. Moreover, if it affects everyone, everyone should know - or at least want to know - how to improve it. One way to do that, is with a positive attitude. Here's why. You have control A lot of the time, people blame the negative events in their life for their reduced qu...

Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations?

If one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won't have much of an effect on what the meal is like. Even so, what they will do is allow them to experience positive thoughts and feelings, and this could also have a positive effect on the people who work at the restaurant. The positive responses that these people receive from them can end up being mirrored back to them. One Step Back What is taking place within them will have an effect on their body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, what they say, and even the energy they give off. However, what is taking place within them will also have had an effect on how they behaved when they arrived at the restaurant. And this will have made it even easier for the people who worked there to respond t...

Don't Take Anything Personally: Three Suggestions

here's no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing. When I ask workshop participants and coaching clients what they're hoping to gain from our work together and we begin to write down goals, they often say they want to learn how not to take the conflict personally. It's a very common theme. I look at this a lot, because I want that, too. In Don Miguel Ruiz's insightful book, The Four Agreements, one of the agreements he suggests we make with ourselves to have a happier life is just this:"Don't Take Anything Personally." Benjamin Zander, author, motivational speaker, and conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, often quotes his father as saying, "There is no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing." I live in New Hampshire where winter can make each day a challenge. And, especially when I have to travel in snow and ice,I can even take the weather personally! So how to we actually do it--not take things person...

Opportunity Is Always Under Your Feet

Has it ever crossed your mind why some people always make it in life regardless of their status or background or even beliefs? The reason is that they have mastered the LIFE PRINCIPLE which says that, wherever you are there is something prepared for you. Move away from trying to think that good things or better things are never found where you are but rather somewhere else. Right there where you are you have an opportunity to do great things and to be a better person. You do not need to look for those good things from other people or from other families or communities. Take time to dig around yourself and where you are. This world is structured in such a way that if you truly believe in your dreams and work hard on those dreams, you are going to be a success, regardless of where you are. So opportunity is everywhere. This world we live in is a place where the bold and courageous ones make it. Be bold in your field of expertise. Be the best in what you do and where you are now, yo...

Peace of Mind

Peace of mind or inner peace is a state when your brain is free from the thoughts of distress. The state when your feelings and emotions reach the level of existential bummer. You submit yourself to your creator whole-heartedly. You are no longer convinced by the statement that there is no absolution. You find a way to map the radiant thinking process of your brain against the flow states. Inner peace is a feeling of relief and calmness. You are actually close to your Lord and your Lord is close to you. You find yourself emotionally present and no longer lost in some kind of fantasy. Inner peace is the state when you no longer question about your fate. You finally accept the fact that life is not about victories or losses, but it is all about a continuous process of growth. The situations where you are just not thinking about your future, but try hard to live in present. You are no longer controlled by the horrible incidents of the past. You finally accept the truth that you are th...

How You THINK, You Are

While some people possess certain skills, abilities, attributes, and an aptitude, which might be beneficial, and give them, a, so - called, leg - up, on the rest of us, in the vast number of instances, and situations, it's our quality of thinking, which creates, either, a positive, can - do, attitude, or an abundance of weakness, and self - doubt. Those, with self - confidence, and a positive, self - image, generally, start off, with a significant advantage, over those who think, they can't. While your thinking, and thought - processes, are significant, the most essential component, is when one begins with the concept and idea, he will be successful, and begins to behave and act, as a success, does, his potential is exponentially, enhanced! As the adage goes,  As you  THINK , you are! With that in mind, this article will attempt to briefly examine, review, consider, and discuss, using the mnemonic approach, why this concept is one of the most important, to one's ability t...

What's the Secret to Ageing Well?

How many amazing photographs have we seen of late of older celebrities who look stunning? Joan Collins, Sharon Stone, Jane Fonda and even Her Majesty the Queen are all great examples of high-profile females who are turning the notion of twinsets, pearls and tight perms firmly on its head by looking incredible whilst being busy and continuing to achieve great things in later life. Male celebrities too are also out pushing boundaries, whilst there are regularly items in the news of older people enjoying adventurous lives. Many are studying, working, travelling and treating later life as opportunity to change path and enjoy a great time. Many of us are happy to forgo the rocking chairs as middle age gets pushed back yet another decade. Whilst we many not be privy to the financial clout or lifestyle choices of wealthy celebrities or have the genetic advantage of good looks and bone structure there are still ways we can improve our quality of life and enjoy ageing well. - Our hair ...

Thinking Positive and Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is an important key to success. It is also one of the major bases of a person's existence and self respect in the society. To become successful you must always adopt a positive attitude. To develop a positive attitude, you must lead an honest and truthful life as well. Important Tips To Increase Your Self-Confidence: First of all, shortlist and note down all your fears and weaknesses. Then only you can work out and take appropriate steps to tackle them. Think Positive, Act Positive and Keep Smiling. This will greatly enhance your personality. Gradually, you will begin meeting new people with the same positive attitude. With increased good energy flowing all around, your self-confidence is bound to increase on its own. Always remain active and alert in your activities. Gradually, you will start feeling a gush of self-confidence increasing inside you. Keep yourself updated with the latest happenings, especially which is directly connected with your studies...

Rumination Is for Ruminants

The word "ruminant" comes from the Latin  ruminare , which means to "chew over again." There are over 200 species of ruminants that have specialized stomachs which allows them to ferment plant material and then (sorry if you are eating while reading this) bring it back up to chew on it some more to further break down the plant material for maximum absorption of the nutrients. Examples of animals that can do this are: cows, sheep, goats, deer, antelope, giraffes, and many other herbivores. While humans don't possess the rumen for this digestive process, we most certainly are capable of, and in some cases, experts, in the mental act of rumination. Edward Selby, PhD, wrote an article in Psychology Today called, "Rumination: Problem Solving Gone Wrong. How Rehashing the Situation Can Ruin Your Mood. " In the article, Dr. Selby says that rumination is problematic because you "continuously think about the various aspects of situations that are upset...

5 Tips to Build a Positive Life

Keep track of things you are grateful for from that day. This is often something that is suggested to maintain a positive outlook because it can be very effective when you focus on the good things that have happened that day. I personally try to write down at least 5 things that happened that day that I am thankful for. It doesn't have to be something big, even little things have the ability to show us that the world and your life is much more bright than it might sometimes seem Try and do something nice for someone else. Serving others is a great way to build a positive life. While I keep a gratitude journal I make it a goal to make it into another person's journal each day (even if they don't keep one). Adding your own light to the world can make it just a little bit brighter even if you're not the one that is receiving the kind action. Try and add your light through small efforts every day. This can be something as simple as holding doors open for others or ...

National Organ Donor Day and Its Importance

Organ Donation Statistics According to the studies from the organdonor.gov As of August 2017, 116,000+ men, women and children are in the organ waiting list. In the year 2016, it is estimated that around 33,611 transplants were performed successfully. Per day minimum of 20 people dies without getting donors. Even though a majority of the US citizens support organ donation only 54% of them are actually signed up as donors. What should be done to donate Organs and save more lives? Get into the nearby hospital or the community health center and enroll yourself for organ donation. Organs from one donor can save up to 8 lives. You can help the people in your family and community to enroll for organ donation to become a registered donor. What organs can be donated? All the eight vital organs which include heart, kidneys (2), pancreas, lungs (2), liver, and intestines can be donated. Hands and faces will also be coming into the list on the nearby days. Tissue donation i...

Worry As a Pandemic Problem

We humans are world class worriers. We worry about everything and everyone. We never seem to be at peace. Many times worry keeps us up at night. So, we spend a lot of time worrying. Say we spend 2 hours a day worrying. That would mean that we spend 14 hours a week worrying. When we multiply that by fifty-two weeks that would mean that we spend 728 hours a year worrying. Over a lifetime of say 70 years, we worry well over 50,000 hours. Now that's a LOT of worry! Worry can even make us ill because of the anxiety that it causes. Worry can cause car accidents because we are distracted when driving. Worry can cause families to break up and relationships to be strained. And worry can cause a lot of undue stress for us. So, why do we worry? We worry for all kinds of reasons. There is so much uncertainty in our world today. There is financial unrest and political upheaval. There are natural disasters and disease. There is job insecurity and mental illness. Yes, we do have a lot ...

Don't Take Anything Personally: Three Suggestions

There's no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing. When I ask workshop participants and coaching clients what they're hoping to gain from our work together and we begin to write down goals, they often say they want to learn how not to take the conflict personally. It's a very common theme. I look at this a lot, because I want that, too. In Don Miguel Ruiz's insightful book, The Four Agreements, one of the agreements he suggests we make with ourselves to have a happier life is just this:"Don't Take Anything Personally." Benjamin Zander, author, motivational speaker, and conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, often quotes his father as saying, "There is no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing." I live in New Hampshire where winter can make each day a challenge. And, especially when I have to travel in snow and ice,I can even take the weather personally! So how to we actually do it--not take things perso...

When Times Are Hard, How Do You Help Yourself? Here Are Some Ideas For You

When times are hard, it's easy to think that things will never change. Life grinds to a halt. Everything feels more difficult, and the everyday necessities of life may often feel like impossible tasks to accomplish. Maybe it's a friend who is going through a difficult transition. Or maybe you or a family member have received bad news. Whatever the specifics, when times are hard you are challenged on many fronts and tend to feel jarred and jostled off track. What do you do when times are hard? Hard times affect your energy, your feelings, and they also affect both the choices you make about your time ADN how you feel about time, in general. What if you're feeling the pinch, economically? Maybe you lost your job, or business is slow. Economic constraints affect the range of time choices that feel available or accessible to you. Things like vacations, new educational pursuits, or new appliances may not even make it to your consciousness. Instead, you pull back ...

If Your Worries Scare You, This Really Helps

Do worries stress you out? Your worries have a profound impact on your energy, on your stress levels, and on your overall health. Worries also affect your experience of time and, ultimately, they diminish your enjoyment of your life. So, while it seems obvious that worry would trigger fears and add to your stress, what I'm going to tell you next may feel counterintuitive. It's this:  Slowing down and facing a worry can actually  relieve  your fear and stress. So, try not to react to worries... When you're worried your knee-jerk reaction is usually to speed up. Your focus is either on getting away from or trying to address whatever is causing your concern. Both of these responses are usually very quick. And the reality is that they are reactive and will increase, rather than decrease your feelings of stress. If you try to get away from something that you're worried about, you are reinforcing the magnitude of its "scariness." Pema Chodron , in...